Life's Not Easy

I'm not good at writing neither i intend to. This time too i'm trying to express. This goes out to one of my friend or a person, as we still need to hit that threshold which technically makes us friends. Any who, i know the person and more over i know what my friend is going through.

Life's not good and so not easy, at least to many a common people. It never turns out the way you want it to. But that's the way it has always been and we need get over it. I haven't seen even half the day light as much as my said to be friend has. But one thing i have learned in my life that nothing lasts long and neither will this. You will get out of it.

One thing which matters at this time are the decisions. First thing decisions should be that they should always be yours so that you have no one else to blame it to when they don't work out. Only bad decisions make a one grow.

And the last thing, to always be calm. Never take anger take over you.

I know that i suck at this and will never be good at this but i never give up. Think this is pretty cool. Well, even i don't know what I'm doing but i felt really good in my head. But, i do feel good after this. I hope i could help.

Co-ordinates Changed

Hey all,

It's been a hell of hectic week. There have been many changes especially i have moved to a new place, though the new place is not more than 10 blocks away from my last home. But i had to move to the new place in the night. Yea, I was planning to move the next day but then my friend called and says why don't you move today, then, you won't have to take a day off from office. I liked the idea. Anyways, I didn't want to miss a day of my office life.

So, I started moving at 9 PM in the night. I couldn’t take the whole stuff at a single time so I had to be back for another turn. Then, I had to clear all my bills like laundry, food etc.
I know this may not sound exciting to you but it was for me. This will be counted among one of my those days when I took ad hoc decisions like when last time we decided to go to the beach which was more than 600 KM from our home.

I don’t often take these kinds of decisions. Though, this kind of ad hoc decision may be risky but it brings so much of dynamism in one’s scheduled life. I have always believed that scheduled life in boring life and that’s why I’m up looking for something new, something off schedule.





By the way, i'm moving in with a friend, which is like a change to me after living with strangers for close to an year now.

My Best Friend – A Short Story

My Best Friend – A Short Story


The incident I’m describing is from my school days. It was the winter of January

It was an icy cold night of February in Delhi. I was crying in the corner of my room as my mother was shouting on me. It wasn’t my mom shouting mom which made me cry, it was the reason for which she was shouting at me. I had lost my tuition bag and my Science and English textbooks along with it. I felt as if my whole world had fallen. I had no idea what to do. I year end examination were due in 15 days. I thought, I’d take one of my friend’s notebooks and copy the notes. But that didn’t seem as a feasible idea. I can’t ask my school friends for notebooks, where the hell would they study from? I can’t ask for my tuition mates for help as they had their exams lined up in a couple of weeks too. Copying notes from one to other textbook wasn’t going to be an easy job too. It would at least take 3 days of time. Then, I talked to chachi (Aunt), who used to live with us (we were kind of joint family), to copy one subject’s note for me, as she had the best handwriting in my family.

But still, I didn’t have the notes to copy from. I knew every hour I was loosing was precious and had to come up with a solution really soon. I know, this was the time to test my friends but I didn’t want to do it. I was scared of the fact that what will happen if they don’t help? This would certainly create some issues between me and my friends. Though, I completely understand that gives your notebooks to someone else, when your exams are hanging on your head, wasn’t only their own decision. I knew many of my friends mothers wouldn’t allow them to do that. No body wants their kid of suffer because of some other dumb ass, irresponsible kid.

Well, yea, you guessed it correctly. I thought about it more than I did. I made up my mind that my friends won’t help me without even asking them for help. And, yes, I’m still as confused as that kid was in 8th standard.

The day after, I’d lost my bag; I was sitting in my room and getting frustrated. Cursing my fate, abusing god and whomsoever, I could blame it on. Then, somebody knocked on the door. I opened it and there she was. Yea, even I was surprised. I hadn’t seen her since 5th standard, when I changed school. Even though, she livid a couple of blocks away from my place, we kind of drifted apart after I moved to new school. We were good friends but ‘school’ good friends. Even during my earlier school life, there were rare chances I went to her home or she came to mine.
I couldn’t believe her sitting in front of me. But, to top that, I couldn’t believe what she did for me. She brought her Science and English notebooks and not for me to copy from them. She gave the notebooks to me. Even though, we studied in different school but our schools were CBSE affiliated, thus, were following the same syllabus.

Me: - I’ll copy them and return ASAP
Her: - No need to copy. Return them after your exams are over
Me: - But, what about your exams?
Her: - Don’t you remember? We have exams in mid April in this school.

She told me that my mom met her, early in the morning, at the Mother Dairy and asked if she could help. Then, I realized how perfectly the issue was solved without anyone suffering.

I don’t know and still can’t figure it out that if she was best friend. But, on that day, for me she was a godsend. I used to be good at studies but thanks to her, I stood second in my class that year. But, things went normal again. I didn’t see much of her again, other than the few moments of me passing by her on the road and her passing the smile. The last time I heard about her was when she was getting married.

A Friend Called "Morale Booster"

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I thought this would be the easiest topic to write about. But, it’s proving to be such a pain in the rear. Actually, this is all happening cause this is the first time I’m trying to categorize my friends as best, good and not-so-good friends. It’s because of the same reason it’s so difficult to choose one especial person from a huge group of people.

Sam And Frodo

The choice, really, isn’t easy for me. I had to go really deep down memory lane to recollect all those instances when and where someone became my savior for the day. Who is that one person? Can it be my friend who got beaten up, for the thing I did, by the teacher and he didn’t blame it on me. Can it be my friend who helped me with my studies, even if helping me, at that moment could have affect S’s own results? Or is it the person who trusts me more than anyone and shares secrets with me?


I tried searching internet for a definition of a Best Friend, so that, I can fit in one person from my life to it and see if he/she matches the ideal/best friend’s arguments. But friend/best friend is one term/word which even google couldn’t define.


So, to come out of this dilemma, I choose, which can be categorized as THE lamest question, the “Who is that one person (friend) I’d take with me to a deserted island??”

The only name which came to my mind was of S’s. S is one person who has always been there. S is my “I’ll be there for you” person. Some one who’d always be there when I look behind. S has never bored me. S is the only person with whom I can converse with more than 5 mins without getting distracted. S is the person who picks my calls even if I call at 2 in the midnight.

Chandler and Joey

S and I go long back. We were school classmates. I exactly remember the day when I joined my new school and my class teacher told me go sit with S as she knew me and S come from same locality and that I knew S before. We spent 7 great school years together. We used to spend the whole summer vacation together, if, not waiting for each other to return. It’s difficult to describe how we came close and how the bond became stronger. It wasn’t just one moment which changed everything. It was an effort we both had put, over the years, in every moment, every other day to build up the trust we share today.


Today, it’s been exactly one year and three months since I left my home (1^st May 09). But, cause of S, I never feel alone in this city even when I’m living alone here. S told me to call S whenever and whatever it is about and it was S’s word which S always stood by. I don’t miss here in Bangalore because S is the first person I talk to whenever I’m alone.

Jai And Veeru

S is my “Morale Booster”. I gave S the nick name “morale booster” a couple of months ago. It was, again, one those “not my best” days coupled with lonely night in Bangalore. I called up S as usual and we had which I described THE best conversation, though I don’t remember all of our conversations but this one is definitely going to be with me for a long time. I was low because of all the happy news I was hearing about my friends like someone getting promoted, another getting married, one becoming a father and then someone buying a home. That day S told me, “When you are aiming for success, it’s the direction which matters not the pace”. This raised my confidence to the highest level for next 3 days before my fickle nature again brought it down. I don’t know how S does it, but it seems pretty easy for S to induce confidence in me, though, S is still working on making it last longer.

I know S isn’t an extraordinary person. You don’t have to be to touch someone’s life. Friendship is a beautiful relationship. Your friends are reflections of how good are you at decision making. Yea, it’s filmy to say but you choose your friends and being friend with S is one decision which proves that I don’t suck at decision making. I’ll also take it as a reference of my decision making skill.

I still don’t know what’s a definition of a best friend? But, for time being, I think I’ll leave it off at “S”.



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Help Needed

First thing, i don't need help rite now, atleast. I do thank god for that.

HELP. I'm posting today about the thrust which pushes feel to help people around me or my friends. Its really important that you help people. It is one of those things which makes your day. Getting a THANK YOU from a stranger or person can make my day. It atleast makes mine. I remember when i used to work at the call center. When ever i used to get my caller's issue resolved......the thanks from the person made me work harder for the next call.

So, one time my friend asked me this question:
what you feel when somebody asks for help especially a friend?

Here's what i answered.

When somebody asks me for a favor, i feel as if i'm the most important person for that guy/gal at that moment, atleast. It's really bad to say.....but that gives me feeling of being like god. It feels as if only i can help the person out.

I know the reason is pretty bad. It's bad to compare self to god. But whatever is the reason, i have supported and helped my friends every time i can. Would rate it one of the best reason why i have so many friends and really good friends.

Here, i wanna say that whatever will be the situation, my friends can always trust me for being there. So, woo hoo....\,,,/.....to my friends. This one is for you. Love you all.

22 Down

Hey All,

Its my Birth-Day today. If, i'm in your list of friends in facebook or orkut, you may have seen it there.

Yes, the phone is ringing since 00:00 AM, 28th October. So, since a couple of days i've been thinking of what i should post on my B'day. Nothing came into my mind.......i was carrying the same thing with me to the bed.....and it was on my mind all time. So, today morning, when i woke up. This idea came into my mind. Don't know how bad or good it is but this is one of those feeling which strangely comes to the mind when you wake up. It felt as if, i was thinking about the whole thing all night and felt confident about it.

So here it goes, i've planned to break the last 22 years for this post.


1987- The year i was born.

1988- Really don't remember anything about it. Come on, i was too young.

1989- My brother told me that he used to let me win a race only cause i use to cry after loosing.

1990- My father told me that he bought me my first bat(that's why i'm such a huge fan of Cricket).

1991- I joined my first school.

1992- One of those years of which i don't have any memories.

1993- My uncle, father's bro, got married and then he no longer took me to school(only thing i remember of that year).

1994- That was the year when i had my first favorite actor -- SANJAY DUTT

1995- don't remember.

1996- Being the huge cricket buff and Cricket world cup held first time in India, that was the first world cup which i saw start to end and remember, i think, most of it.

1997 - I left my first school and joined a new one. Miss my friends from the old school........damn i'm not in contact with any one of them.

1998- Failed an exam in the monthly test. The only i have ever failed in my school life. It was terrible, i cried the whole night.

1999- My first real love.



2000- My first favorite actress came into the Indian Movie Industry. Have been in love with her since then. Never miss a single movie of her. She didn't make it big in the industry as was expected but she'll be my fav for life.

2001- First time my school group had an outing...which made us come close as a group. We are still together, all 14 of us. The same year was marked as the year of rise of SHAM. We four friends called us. Every word is the initial of one of our name. Like second one is mine Hitesh :)

2002- Passed the 10th standard. Got disapointing results which was a big switch.

2003- 14 of us were not together and were falling apart with some of us moved to distant places.

2004- Won school championship for table tennis. Also passed out my school. Entered the college for graduation.

2005- First year of college, found great friends. Become distant from school friends.
2006- Got into first and only fight of my life in college.

2007- Bought a Nokia N70 of my blogging money. My first phone. Came close to school friends again.

2008- Appeared to join in Indian Army. Couldn't make it. Completd graduation. Joined my first job. Made good friends at the job. Still with them.

2009- Changed job. Left home and moved to new city.


So, these are the last 22 year of my life................
There will be a couple of more B'day posts.

Happy Birthday to ME people \,,,/

Today's Day

Today was tough. I woke up late this morning. Missed the first bus, caught the second and was late about 10 mins......good thing.....timing isn't a big issue. Next, one of my friend called while i was traveling to office that too when i talked to her like ....... 2 times in last 3 days. Then, she broke the news that she's getting engaged. I wasn't shocked cause i knew it was coming soon but yes thought how will be able to make it.

Engagement is also as big as a wedding here. Its not always like a guy proposing a girl. Anyways, it will be a once in a life time day for her and being a good friend.......yea, that's me. I want to attend it. I'll try my best to be there, said the same to her. However, even i'm not confident rite now of making it. Really, really want to be there. Pray for me.

Another thing happened was the one big issue have been solved. The issue food. If you remember, i have moved to a new place.......... and the issue was that as i don't know how to cook and eating out everyday was boring and not feasible for me. Also. i'm not used to it. Now its been solved and I'm happy for that. Actually, the issue got resolved today and i don't have to go out from today.

Wishing all a happy Tuesday and Wednesday...and other days too............Rite now i'm wishing you all to get atleast one good news today.

\,,,/

"Move On"

Don't how much this word terrifies you but it kills me. I have left home, friends and good friends 4 months ago.

I think, i'm the only one who is still living in history. Instead of making new friends in new city, being alone here is taking me closer to my earlier friends. I'm calling my friends more than anytime. This fixation is not letting me get out and making new friends. Also want to tell the friends i'm refering here, were my classmates from school. Almost all of my friends have moved on especially because they had good college life. While may be cause i didn't had that great college life.........or it would be better to say that my school life was way way great than my college life. As i told, my friends have moved on. They have more friends to attend.........yea, they do enjoy hanging out with us.........but its that we don't spend that much time together.........also most of us are doing something or anything. Why i'm saying we or they......we were a hugh group.....to be presice we were 14 in number. We were been together....for more than 5 years......then 3 left......but still were together and till now. Its been some 11 years now or probably more. But for graduation, we all were scattered.........all took different courses......and were no where close.....in education.....but always took time out to meet atleast once a week. But its not the same.......especially when i'm 2500KM away. Also as i was the one who used to force them to be together......i know as me not there, no one gonna be together. I miss my friends.



Also, i'm not that friendly. I don't like talking to stranger..............like many people do....they can start a conversation any where, any time......... with any one. But i'll tell about that later.

My Best One Hour Of The Day

Yea, people are engrossed by work. All of them have something to do......some work here...and there. Even i have work, yea, i am also employed. I'm not one of those who earn heavily from their blog and pages and don't have to work.....but i wish to be one of you. I like writing a lot .... and the fact that there are more than a couple(my brother and my friend) of people reading me.....amazes me and encourages to write more and truthfully.

Yea, so about the best one hour of my day..... and it is the ........the one hour i watch FRIENDS. I started watching this series, somewhat, 8-10 months back. Since, then i haven't been able to live one day without it. I did almost everything.........though i couldn't afford it...so i downloaded all the parts....God bless Torrents and P2P concept generator who ever he/she was/is.

Well, these days i'm watching the 10th season of FRIENDS. I love those guys and gals........everything is so good in this.

Watching FRIENDS gives me all the emotions - fun, emotional. love, friendship, etc.....many of the emotions which i can't even describes.......like what is the mix of fear and love........huhhhh....not that simple....need to buy a new vocabulary......

So this is me.................i would love to know....what is you best...time of the day..........

Gora(Whitey) Accent

Yes, the following story i'm telling you is a real incident. This is one of those funny call center experiences which you laugh at and when you recall them, you more. I have worked for a call center and i know how funny and loving people can be.

So here it is. Once i was sitting with my friends and cubemates and one of my friends gets a call from this really interesting person. My friend greeted the person the same way as we to all the users who call us.

Friend - Thanks for calling. I'm FRIEND. Can i have you name plz.
Caller - Hi, my name is ABC.
Friend - Hello, sir. So how may i assist you?
Caller - well today morning when i started working with my laptop it started giving me these error messages and its now not even starting.
After some questioning my friend found this issue will take time.

Friend - well this issue will take to resolve. (to initiate a converstation)So where are you calling from?
Caller - I'm in ________.
and may i also know where am i calling?
Friend - ohh yes, you are calling India.
Caller - Okkk... India yea its a beautiful country. I have been there for 3-5 times. Well i also know Hindi.

(Then what came was upexpected)

Caller - Hey you can talk to me in your language too. I know Hindi. You should have said "Aap kaisa hai?(means How are you ?)"
Then i would have replied as "Main accha hoo in my Gora accent (I'm fine in my white guy accent) "

The response from my friends was a laugh. They both laughed on the call for like minutes. This is a very famous instance between we friends. I wish i had that caller.

Me as Joey

I think it was Tuesday this week, when i took this quiz on facebook where it guesses which FRIENDS character you fit to and not even me and any of my friends would have guessed the result it showed. It guessed me as "Joey - Joseph Francis Tribbiani".

I was thinking that i'll get Chandler. But Joey hit me really out of no where. If given i would like to be Chandler. Not only cause of Monica and not cause of everyone thinks he is gay but he gives me "ME" kinda vibs.

Well, this post also to announce soon i'll be start writing about the FRIENDS characters. So, would like you to share your experiences with all.

My Best Friend's GirlFriend -- Expected Dane Cook

I have seen Dane's one more movie before watching this one and he was playing somewhat a simillar kind of character as a Casanova. So its getting a bit boring, take my advice Dane, try something new next time. Other in the cast include, Kate Hudson whom i love cause she is so beautiful and that too one record. But she is not doing so good from the last 2-3 years, i believe. I mean Fool's Gold, Bride's war and this , i think she must have a good reason for these movies. I don't rate any of these movies or the character she played to match her caliber which i did saw when i saw her in some of her earlier movie. Another important character is played by Jason Biggs, can't understand why he can't get out of his "American Pie" hangover. He felt so similar in this one too. Just at a different level. I think all these three people should make some drastic changes to themselves because if they keep movies and charaters like what they have always done....count the atleast one who won't be watch that movie.

Wouldn't recommend this movie to anyone. I know you people have seen a lot of movie where one guy is a tatol loser and to get the girl he wants he takes help from another guy(in this movie as the name suggests the other guy is his own friend). Then the girl falls for the other guy but the other guy is guilty about that he stabbed his friendship and now he acts as an asshole so that the girl goes back to the original guy but when the original guy finds out that his friends loves her more than him, he plans to get them together again. I mean, come on. Its like same story just played by a different cast.

One good thing about the movie, the 10 reasons for Dane Cook to be an asshole on the dates. They showed it two times in the movie and those were the only 5 mins of the movie i liked .
　
3/10 Stars